Children, despite being in their “carefree” stage of life, do go through plenty of hurts, struggles, and challenges. The current state of affairs in SA- which is struggling a pandemic and civil unrest simultaneously- is extremely unsettling for our kiddos- so let’s look at how to build resilience. Resilience is the ability to adapt well to adversity. Resilience does of course not take away the underlying emotional pain or sadness after a major stress or loss, but it helps us to cope. How can we help build up resilience? Encourage your children to build up a network: encourage them to connect with family and peers- even through video-chats. Feeling part of a team helps give purpose and place. Encourage your children to help others- this can be empowering. Challenge unrealistic thinking in children by asking about the ”worst case scenario” which they fear, and then discussing it step by step.…

Parenting is the hardest job in the world and a role we need to grow into as we go long! Here are some old faithful parenting paradigms: Accept that every child is different Every child is unique in their constitution, abilities and talents. Try not to compare siblings and try not to compare your children with other  people’s children! We all have a unique path in life- each flower will blossom in its own time. Children will wilt if they are constantly discouraged, criticised or compared. Lead by example. This is tough- but we are the most important role models for our children! We need to model hard work, problem solving, and generosity. If we shout, we give them permission to shout. If we spend a lot of time on our phones, we “normalise” this behaviour. We will not always get it right as parents. Have the grace to…